As the news of Harvey Weinstein's sexual assault history broke, more and more celebrities spoke out about the need for change. Most people were in agreeance: the people committing these acts were to blame, and them alone.
But Blossom and The Big Bang Theory star, Mayim Bialik, found herself back-pedaling hard when she voiced her opinion on the matter. Bialik penned an essay for the New York Times which spoke about her experience as a young woman in Hollywood.
Her piece started off well, talking about how her mom taught her to never be anyone but herself when going in for interviews. But it sort of went downhill from there. As she continued to write, Bialik began drawing comparisons between conventional beauty and how she sees herself.
"...I have experiences the upside of not being a "perfect ten."...I have no personal experience with men asking me to meetings in their hotel rooms. Those of us who don't represent an impossible standard of beauty have the "luxury" of being overlooked and, in many cases, ignored by men in power unless we can make them money."
"I still make choices every day as a 41-year-old actress that I think of as self-protecting and wise. I have decided that my sexual self is best reserved for private situations with those I am most intimate with. I dress modestly. I don't act flirtatiously with men as a policy."
This is where people found an issue. They felt as though Bialik was blaming women who have been assaulted for wearing clothing that "provoked" their attacker.
.@missmayim I have to say I was dressed non provocatively at 12 walking home from school when men masturbated at me. It's not the clothes.— Patricia Arquette (@PattyArquette) October 14, 2017
According to Mayim Bialik the best way for women to avoid sexual harassment is to be unattractive.— Allie🐰 (@AllieImpact) October 16, 2017
Even though her comments were taken out of context, as Bialik does go on to say she thinks woman should be able to dress how they want, the controversy kept growing. Eventually, the actress had to defend herself against critics.
Bialik took to Facebook Live to address her controversial comments, wanting to make something very clear.
"[It] has become clear to me that there are people who think I implied or overtly stated that you can be protected from assault by the clothing that you wear or the behavior that you exhibit," Bialik said. "That is absolutely not what my intention was and I think it is safe for me to start this conversation by saying there is no way to avoid being the victim of assault by what you wear or the way you behave."
Bialik continues, saying she never intended her piece to be about victim-blaming.
"I really do regret this became what it became because literally, I was trying to speak about a very specific experience I had in a very specific industry," she said. "The only people who are responsible for their behavior in assault is the predators who are committing those horrendous acts. I do want to assert again that I'm excited and motivated to be part of a larger conversation ... If this was not the way to do it in these 900 words, I do apologize for that and I hope to be part of opening up more of this conversation."
What do you think of her essay? Was she in the wrong?