Mom's Post About Not Complimenting Your Daughter's Body Goes Viral


Moms and daughters have a bond that no one can match. You may not always get along, but the love between a mother and her little girl only grows stronger as the years pass.

But we can often find ourselves in a situation where women and girls are constantly told how they look, whether that's good or bad. Of course, everyone likes to hear that they look nice once in a while, but there is more to life than just looks.

Sarah Koppelkam decided to pen a post about how mothers should speak to their daughters, and it's completely inspiring. Facebook user Alexa Dvorak shared the post on her page and it's received almost half a million shares.

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don't talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her...

Posted by Alexa Dvorak on Wednesday, July 6, 2016

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don't talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don't say anything if she's lost weight. Don't say anything if she's gained weight.

If you think your daughter's body looks amazing, don't say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

"You look so healthy!" is a great one.

Or how about, "You're looking so strong."

"I can see how happy you are -- you're glowing."

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don't comment on other women's bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Me and my mama. Personal Photo

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don't you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don't go on a diet in front of your daughter.

Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals.

But don't say, "I'm not eating carbs right now." Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

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Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe.

Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that's a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you'll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn't absolutely in love with.

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Prove to your daughter that women don't need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom's recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It's easy to hate these non-size zero body parts.


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Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her rib cage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs.

She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

In a world where we put so much pressure on women to look a certain way, it's important to remember what really matters: the type of person that they are. Who cares if your daughter's body isn't what mainstream media deems is acceptable? Your job as a mother is nurture and support your kids to be the best they can be.

Share this with your daughter to let her know you love her!

Meagan has an intense love for Netflix, napping, and carbs.