It's really no big secret that as we age, our sex life changes. Even just from our 20s to our 30s, priorities shift, especially if you have kids, and it's entirely possible our sex lives diminish as we go. Of course, that doesn't mean it completely disappears. Older people are still humans, after all!
There are some common lies that are spread about sex lives after the age of 50, and frankly it's time they get debunked. We'd like to know who started these rumors, too.
So without further ado, here are some super common myths that are super incorrect.
1. You don't really want sex as you get older.
This is absolutely false. After puberty, the urge for sex never really stops. That being said, sexual satisfaction depends more on the overall quality of the relationship than it does when we're younger. So if a couple over the age of 50 isn't having regular sex, it's possible there are bigger issues at play.
Plus, as mentioned before, priorities shift. It may not be that you don't want sex, it just doesn't fit as freely into your schedule as it used to.
2. Men can't get erections as they get older.
With the amount of ads that air about erectile dysfunction, you would think every single man requires medication to have sex. But that's not true at all! For men between the ages of 65 and 85, less than half of them will ever develop erectile dysfunction. It's possible that it takes a man over the age of 50 longer to experience an erection, but the ability isn't just magically snapped away.
3. Women don't want sex as they older because of emotional issues.
There seems to be this misconception that as women get older, they're just completely emotionally inept. That couldn't be farther from the truth. It's actually a series of physical factors that can hinder a woman's interest in having sex as she ages. As menopause hits, low estrogen levels can cause discomfort during intercourse, which doesn't really make it all that appealing. Plus, the overall hormonal shift that menopause brings on can affect a woman's sexual drive.
4. Women don't have orgasms as they get older.
Umm...wildly inaccurate. Those increased hormones we talked about can actually be a huge benefit here. Many women have reported that their sexual pleasure increases after menopause has run its course, and their orgasms are not only more frequent, but also more intense.
5. Emotional problems are at the root of erectile dysfunction.
Why do people think older people are so emotional!? If anything, they're more closed off because they've had to deal with so much nonsense through life. No, erectile dysfunction does not stem from an emotional issue, just like how women don't stop wanting sex because of their emotions, either.
Physical issues, like circulation problems, prostate disorders, and the side effects from certain prescription medications account for 85% of the issues surrounding erectile dysfunction.
6. Older couples stop having sex because they don't love each other anymore.
Wrong, my friend. As you grow with someone and learn about their likes and dislikes, you learn about pleasuring each other in ways other than just sex. Love is more than a physical action. In fact, sex may increase when couples get older, because both partners end up retiring and there suddenly is a lot more free time hanging around.
While sex may be portrayed in the media as something for only young couples to enjoy, the reality is older people aren't totally celibate as the years go on. These myths about having sex over the age of 50 have been around for a long time, but now it's time we put them to bed!